“What is a good resource to understand milestones for my child? At what age should they learn colors? Learn numbers? Learn to write? Learn to read? Learn shapes? Learn greetings? Learn manners? Learn to share? And then, how do I teach this stuff? How do I know if they’re on-track?” We’re asked these questions many, many times. Honest and true: there is no one-size-fits-all answer.
Learn
Many teachers dislike milestones because they make parents unnecessarily anxious. They can set a child up for failure, and parents for frustration. And most teachers would likely agree that they’ve never seen a tool for parents that they think is appropriate because, simply put, children cannot be put into category boxes.
Basic Concepts
- All children develop at different paces, developmental areas are interrelated, and culture and environment play a huge role. Milestones usually do not take into account whether or not a child is bi/multilingual, whether or not they have been exposed to other children and school settings, risk factors such as poverty, and cultural influences.
- Milestones are a very general way of assessing whether or not children are developing within the typical continuum of broad category skills. These include: self-help, language and communication, social-emotional skills, and motor skills.
- Typically, milestones are monitored by the healthcare community, which often views these skills as discrete skill sets. For example, the purpose of a motor milestone screening is to determine whether a child has muscular challenges. If a child is not walking by a certain age, there could be underlying problems. The purpose of a milestone resource is often to determine whether or not a child should be referred for more comprehensive evaluation for developmental delays or challenges.
- Early childhood educators view milestones through a holistic lens, looking at all factors in a child’s environment – family and community as it relates to a child’s development.
Some Common Resources
- CDC – Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (Ages 2, 3, 4, 5) – Guidelines for milestones; often shared among pediatricians and families.
- California Preschool Learning Foundations (Vol 1, 2, 3) – Very comprehensive. Learning standards for classrooms.
- ASQ-3 – Used to compare how a child demonstrates their skills at home vs. at school to see if there are any differences.
- HELP charts – A visual tool that prides itself on being ‘practical’. However, it is not commonly used among preschool teachers.
- Writing assessments – Screeners by renowned occupational therapist, Jan Olsen, and her team.
- Independent Schools of the San Francisco Bay Area uses this checklist for student evaluation as a data point for pre-Kindergarten to Grade 1.
Just Remember
- Milestones are for assessing concrete developmental stages, not cultural or family expectations.
- There is a range of typical development for most milestones; provide a secure, engaging environment, and trust that your child will develop along his/her own trajectory.
Do
Very simple – reframe your thinking to:
- What can my child do?
- How can I support their success?
- What is their experience and practice with the skill?
- How is my own culture and upbringing influencing the expectations I am placing on my child?